In our last blog post about communication during a divorce, we touched on three fundamentals to proper communication:
- Avoid conversations when either party is emotionally overwhelmed.
- Schedule conversations in public areas.
- Talk about the divorce with your children, but not in front of them.
If you’ve found these tips helpful, we’d like to encourage you to send these two blog posts to your spouse. When both of you are on the same page in terms of communication “rules,” your divorce can be a much easier process.
There’s a Courtroom Listening
“Anything said can and will be used against you.” The Miranda Warning may not be heard much in terms of divorce law, but its basic principles certainly do apply in these cases! In all of your conversations about divorce, keep in mind that your spouse may use your words against you in court. For this reason, it’s critical that both of you speak to each other with respect and understanding.
A good rule of thumb: If you wouldn’t say it in a courtroom, don’t say it to your spouse.
Don’t Be Public
Posting anything about your divorce – even rather “neutral” remarks – on Facebook, Twitter, your blog, etc. is a big no-no. As any Denver divorce lawyer will tell you, this can come back to bite you. Also, there’s just not a situation in which this is appropriate or necessary.
Tone, Word Choice, & Body Language
Lastly, don’t forget to pay attention to your tone, word choice, and body language.
Tone: Speak with a positive, polite tone to ensure that the meaning of your words is not misconstrued.
Word Choice: Avoid negative language, even if you are dealing with a subject that’s hard to see in a positive light.
Body Language: Standing over someone, crossing your arms, and avoiding eye contact are all negative forms of body language. Let your body language be open and welcoming in order to have the most effective conversations.
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